Unhappiness happens when we spend more time complaining and correcting others’ mistakes than our own.
Tony Hsieh of Zappos identified four ingredients of happiness. They are perceived progress, perceived control, purpose and connectedness.
When we complain and correct others’ mistakes all the time, we don’t improve ourselves. Hence less perceived progress.
Also, we feel we have less control because when we correct others’ mistakes, we have no control over their future behaviour if they would make the same mistakes again.
Complaining and correcting others’ mistakes can hardly be a meaningful purpose either.
It’s hard to connect with others when we always see others being responsible whenever things don’t happen our way.
When all four ingredients are missing, it’s very hard to feel much happiness at all.